The Reddit user’s father wants his child to begin contributing financially after graduation, and the child is refusing to accept that demand.
The post, shared by u/Double-Singer-6631 on the subreddit r/GirlDinnerDiaries, has drawn 562 comments and 4,600 upvotes. In it, the user describes a father who has no savings, has used their sister’s credit card to buy a car, and is ready to retire on his children’s income.
Father’s Retirement Plan
A parent came forward with a scheme concerning what would happen after schooling ended, according to the person who posted about it.
“My dad approached me today and told me that since I finish my undergrad this summer, he’s so excited for me to start working so I can also begin providing for the family like my sister,” the user wrote. “He said he wants to stop working soon.”
The father has nine children, including a 4-month-old, a 7-year-old, a 12-year-old and a 16-year-old who still live at home. The user’s older sister began helping the family financially a few years ago. According to the user, their father has no savings and has used their sister’s credit card to make purchases, including a car.
The user is not on board with the plan.
Poster’s Financial Struggle
The person reports being stuck without a car, without money, and with little more than poor clothing to their name.
“I have no car. I travel so far for my education that I’m physically exhausted, especially because I have an autoimmune disease,” the post reads. “My dad has never helped me with anything. I have no money and barely any decent clothes because I’d rather his money go toward the younger kids.”
The person has kept their personal needs modest so their father’s resources could benefit the younger children instead. Now they are being asked to start contributing to the household, just as their sister did.
They asked “Am I wrong for having absolutely no desire to start funding my parents’ lifestyle?”, and the question carried with it the weight of expectation.
When the topic was brought up, the father reacted with disapproval. “He said, ‘Wow, so you want me to work until I’m old? Fine then.’ You can’t guilt-trip me like that, dude. You chose to have nine children. I didn’t. Maybe I’ll feel bad about saying all of this later, but right now, I completely resent him.”
Guilt Trip Response
The user’s frustration is pointed: they did not choose to be born into a large family, and they do not believe they should have to pay for their father’s decision to stop working.
As the user recounts, the father’s reply presented the hesitation as a character flaw. The user pushed back against that characterization, noting that the choice to raise nine children did not belong to them.
The user said their father has never assisted them with anything, even though the family now expects them to step up.
Commenters Weigh In
The poster received backing from many commenters, while several others wondered if adult children ought to be expected to provide financial support for their parents.
A person left a remark, and it began with these words: “You owe that guy nothing. That’s HIS responsibility! Go live your best life.”
Some warned against painting multigenerational living in too favorable a light, pointing out that sharing a home and cutting costs is not always within reach for families.
Several people pointed out that the person asking for help should get to decide their own path going forward, rather than feeling pressured into helping support a family they never chose to bring into existence.
Reddit users weighed in on the poster’s concerns about supporting their family, with many expressing support and questioning whether adult children should be expected to serve as their parents’ retirement plan.
Sibling Support
The older sister has already stepped into the role of family provider, and the father now wants the user to follow suit.
| Family Member | Financial Role | Current Situation |
|---|---|---|
| Father | No savings; used sister’s credit card for purchases including a car | Wants to stop working soon |
| Older sister | Began helping the family financially a few years ago | Already providing for the family |
| User | No car, no money, autoimmune disease | Finishing undergrad this summer; asked to start providing |
The post does not reveal any plans from the user. It closes with the user’s anger still present, leaving the question of guilt for a later time unresolved.
Key Facts
- 562 comments and 4,600 upvotes on the r/GirlDinnerDiaries post
- 9 children in the family, including a 4-month-old, 7-year-old, 12-year-old and 16-year-old at home
- Father has no savings
- Father used the user’s sister’s credit card to make purchases, including a car
- User finishes undergrad this summer
- User has an autoimmune disease and no car
The Daily Dot was unable to confirm the claims made in the post on its own. The post relies entirely on the author’s account, which was shared on r/GirlDinnerDiaries.
A public family dispute has unfolded in this thread, and it captures how graduation works for some young adults. Rather than marking the beginning of independence, it often marks the start of owing money.
Source: dailydot.com
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