A TikTok user named @val_cosme posted a video about a jealousy text she got from a woman who was dating a man she used to know. The creator had blocked the man a year earlier after calling him a bum, but he kept using her name to fuel drama with his girlfriend. The video drew 417,900 views as of publication.
The Text Message
The story starts with a hate text. @val_cosme says she got a message one night, and she realized she wasn’t getting cheated on. She replied to ask what the message was about.
The Conversation Unfolds
The woman then asked if @val_cosme knew the man she was dating. The creator said she did. Then the woman asked if she was with him at the park. @val_cosme replied that she didn’t even live in that city.
She knew where the conversation was going. “Whatever your intuition is, you’re right. You’re right,” she said. The woman then told her that one of her best friends was talking to the man, and the man had told her she should start acting right, listen to him, and do everything he wanted, because he had another woman on his phone. He showed her pictures and videos of @val_cosme.
The Creator’s Response
@val_cosme said she had not seen the man in over a year and had stopped talking to him after calling him a bum. She was surprised to learn the man was still invoking her name more than a year after she had stopped speaking to him. “It’s definitely giving, this out here lying, telling people that he knows me or he with me,” she said.
She called the man afterward and told him he was a “literal idiot.” She said, “Do not put me in your drama. You have a female upset. You got other females texting me, talking about, Do you know blah blah blah. I said, That’s absolutely ridiculous at your big old age. Like, shame. Shame on you for having females act like that. And I told him that he ain’t ever gonna see me again.”
The Comments Section
The comments section was filled with similar stories. One commenter wrote, “I once got a ‘hey girly’ message… BUT FROM MY EX BFS NOW WIFE. I hadn’t seen or talked or heard from him in like 6yrs!” Another shared that when she was in high school, she got a call from a girl across the country asking if she had taken her boyfriend’s virginity. She dated the boyfriend years earlier when she lived closer and never had sex with him. A third wrote, “Omg girl same thing happened to me! Except come to find out it was a random guy that I confronted months earlier for taking screenshots of my snap story bikini pics.”
The Order of Events
| Event | Timeline |
|---|---|
| Hate text received | One night |
| Reply sent | After realizing no cheating was happening |
| Woman asks about the man | Follows the reply |
| Best friend mentioned | In the course of the conversation |
| Call made to the man | Not specified in the video |
What the Creator Said
| Detail | Account |
|---|---|
| Last contact with the man | Over a year ago, after calling him a bum |
| Man’s actions | Invoking her name, showing pictures and videos |
| Her response | Called him a “literal idiot,” told him shame on him |
| Outcome stated | Said he won’t see her again |
The Comments Section
The comments section was filled with stories from viewers who had faced similar situations. One commenter wrote about an ex who reached out years later. Another shared a high school story involving a boyfriend she dated years earlier. A third told of a stranger who had been confronted months earlier for taking screenshots of her bikini photos.
The Daily Dot could not independently verify the events described in the TikTok. The details above reflect @val_cosme’s account as shared on TikTok.
The video has drawn attention because it names the problem clearly. When a man uses someone else’s name to hurt his partner, he is not protecting anyone. He is damaging the relationship he claims to care about, and he is hurting the person whose name he borrows. @val_cosme’s call was a way of ending that behavior, and the video shows how it played out.
The Daily Dot could not independently verify the events described in the TikTok. The details above reflect @val_cosme’s account as shared on TikTok.
Source material: “‘Do You Know Him’: A TikToker Got a Jealousy Text About a Man She Had Blocked a Year Ago — She Called Him Afterward and Did Not Hold Back,” The Daily Dot.
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