A man’s mother is asking him for money to send to relatives, and he is not sure he owes it to them. The story comes from a post on r/entitledparents, where the poster says he pays for his parents’ apartment and credit card bills, and now his mother wants more cash for distant relations.
The Redditor writes that he is married and helps his parents with a home loan EMI on their apartment. They are doing interior work there before moving in, and he says he has been helping with that too. He also makes monthly payments to his father, whose retirement savings were used for the poster’s wedding. “I’m having to help out there as well,” he wrote.
“I’m having to help out there as well.”
What the Poster Pays
The poster describes a familiar routine. He pays a home loan EMI on his parents’ apartment, contributes to the interior work before they move in, and covers his father’s monthly bills. He also takes care of his mother’s credit card charges. “Apart from the above, I have to pay the monthly bills of my mom’s credit card,” he wrote.
His mother’s latest request is the twist. She asked him to send money to random relatives so she can maintain her image in front of them. The poster did not say yes or no to that request. He simply laid out the facts and let readers decide.
Reader Responses
The thread drew 73 upvotes and 16 comments at the time of posting. One commenter said the arrangement was reasonable to a point. “Helping your folks out after they helped with your wedding seems reasonable,” they wrote. “And it’s not unusual in some parts of the world to have an expectation of helping parents.”
That commenter also offered a practical suggestion. “I think it’s ok to draw the line at ‘random relatives,'” they wrote. “Just say NO.”
A second commenter suggested a response if the mother tried to guilt him. “I heard someone recently say ‘no’ is a complete sentence,” they wrote. “If she guilts you about it you can always say you dont have it unless you take from the money you set aside for her for the next months round of bills. She probably wouldnt want to spend whats meant for her on someone else.”
A third commenter took a harder line. “It sounds like your mom is financially abusing you,” they wrote. “It’s hard to set boundaries with your parents, but this cycle won’t end if you don’t set clear boundaries.”
They urged the poster to protect his own life. “You have your own life to live, to pay for, and maintain,” they wrote. “I would recommend you have a talk with your parents to discuss the financial situation and be honest with them.”
What the Story Shows
The poster’s position is not unusual, even if the request is. He pays the apartment EMI, the credit card bills, and the father’s monthly expenses. His mother’s request asks him to extend that generosity to people who are not named, not described, and not part of his immediate family.
The comments offer a range of advice. Some readers see the arrangement as fair, given what the parents contributed to the wedding. Others see the mother’s request as a boundary-crossing demand. The disagreement is sharp, and the poster has not yet said what he plans to do.
Setting Boundaries
The third commenter’s advice is worth repeating. It is hard to set boundaries with your parents, but this cycle won’t end if you don’t set clear ones. The poster’s life is being funded by his own income, and he should decide who gets the leftovers.
The poster has obligations he cannot escape. He agreed to help with the apartment, the credit card, and the father’s bills. Those are commitments he made. The relatives are a different matter. They were not part of the original agreement, and they should not become part of it now.
The commenter’s suggestion about guilt is practical. If the mother tries to make him feel bad for saying no, he can point to the money he already sets aside for her. You can always say you dont have it unless you take from the money you set aside for her for the next months round of bills. That shifts the conversation from obligation to resource management.
The Financial Picture
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the poster’s finances, family arrangements, or the requests described in the Reddit post and comments. The details above reflect the post and comments on r/entitledparents.
The poster’s own description is detailed enough to raise questions. He pays the apartment EMI, the credit card bills, and the father’s monthly expenses. He also helps with the interior work before his parents move in. That is a lot of responsibility for one man.
The mother’s request is the final test. She wants money sent to relatives so she can maintain her image in front of them. That is a self-interested reason for a request, and it is the kind of request that deserves a firm answer.
The Bottom Line
The poster has a choice to make. He can continue to fund his parents’ lifestyle while also funding their relatives, or he can set a boundary. The comments suggest that saying no is acceptable, and that guilt is not a valid argument for giving more.
The third commenter put it plainly: “It sounds like your mom is financially abusing you.” That is a strong word, and the poster may not agree with it. But the core issue is the same: a parent is asking for money that the child has not promised, for reasons that benefit the parent more than the child.
The poster’s own life needs funding too. He should not be expected to support everyone else first. The commenter’s advice is sound: have a talk with your parents to discuss the financial situation honestly.
The Daily Dot’s role is limited. We report what the poster said, and we note that the details reflect the post and comments on r/entitledparents. We cannot verify the numbers or the story beyond that. But the story itself is worth reading, because it shows a common problem with an honest framing.
A man’s mother is asking for money to send to relatives. The man has already paid for the apartment, the credit card, and the father’s bills. He should not have to pay for the relatives too.
Source material: “A Man’s Mother Keeps Asking for Money to Send to Relatives Before a Major Festival,” The Daily Dot.
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