A woman’s post to r/GirlDinnerDiaries about her boyfriend’s job troubles has drawn thousands of comments from readers who think she deserves better. The poster wrote that her boyfriend, who is 21, has lived with her for four months after losing his apartment when his roommate stopped paying rent, leading to their eviction. His job at the time ended because the company shut down, and he was later fired from a new job after only a week.
At the moment of writing, this post has drawn more than 3,400 upvotes and 2,200 comments.
The Job That Paid Nothing
The poster said he works in sales on a commission basis, which means he only makes money if he signs up enough customers each week. He estimated that number at roughly 15, and said it’s a cap on how much he can earn in a good week, which comes to about $400. Some weeks he brings home nothing at all.
She said she repeatedly urged him to look for other work. “I’ve even had him apply to other jobs but he insists this one is the best he’ll ever get,” she wrote. The couple can only afford outings maybe once a month if he is paying, and she has grown sick of paying for everything.
The money owed on his former home has yet to be settled, and after paying his personal expenses, he usually ends up with roughly $20 remaining, without any savings built up. When she brought up her worries, he urged her to hold firm and rely on this employment, telling her she had nothing to worry about regarding his troubles.
A Five-Month History
The poster’s follow-up explained that she and her boyfriend had been together for five months before he moved in with her. She lets him live there without paying rent so he can put money aside, even though he still pays his own personal bills on his own. The clarification also made clear that, prior to his job losses, he would genuinely try to spoil her, which suggests his conduct shifted because of the financial pressure.
The update came after a serious conversation between them about finding better work. She told him that commenters had described his current job as scammy, and she agreed with that assessment. He acknowledged her concerns, submitted new job applications, and admitted that he was realizing this job wasn’t all he thought it was.
Her closing remarks described him as someone who was not a bad person, merely a little naive.
Commenters Called Him Out
Readers took issue with what they saw as a recurring pattern in the post. One person suggested the boyfriend had moved responsibility for his situation onto the poster. That commenter wrote, “I mean it’d be fine if they were his problems but he made them yours. You can do better.”
One person recounted a comparable scenario involving a friend, saying “Yuuup. Happened to my friend. Two years later, he owed her 20 grand. These guys know how to give women just enough hope to not get dumped and squeeze everything out of them.”.
Another person who commented asked why they were let go so soon from their last position. They put it this way: “This. It’s actually hard to get fired in the first week of work unless something bad happens.”.
The Hard Numbers
- Over 3,400 upvotes and 2,200 comments at the time of writing
- Boyfriend is 21 years old
- Moved in after four months
- Evicted when roommate stopped paying rent
- Current job pays $400 max per good week, often nothing
- Left with about $20 and no savings after bills
- Debt from old apartment remains unpaid
- Poster does not charge rent
Key Facts From the Post
- The boyfriend insists his current job is the best he’ll ever get
- He was fired after only a week at a new job
- His current job pays commission only, with a cap of about $400 per good week
- He was left with about $20 and no savings after bills
- Commenters called his job scammy and urged the poster to leave
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the identities of those involved or the nature of the boyfriend’s employment. The details above reflect the original poster’s account as shared on Reddit.
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