Ghoster Returns Months Later With a New Profile to Tell Her She Looks Worse in Person Than in Photos

The creator behind @www.icarly.com___ tells the tale of a man who abandoned her after their initial date. Months down the road, he reappeared, set up a fresh account, and informed her that she looked less attractive in real life than in her pictures. The post garnered roughly 70,600 views and 4,588 likes when it was published.

The tale starts on a dating app, where the creator, then between jobs, matched with a man and answered his messages once every couple of days. She described him as “double triple messaging me,”. After giving him her phone number, a few days into their exchanges he asked for her Snapchat. She usually declines such requests, but she agreed because she wanted to verify he was not a catfish.

On Snapchat, she sent him full face photos and videos with no filter. “This man knew what I looked like,” she said. Her dating profile photos had a slight filter, but not enough to change her appearance. A couple of weeks in, he asked her out for Thursday. The night before, he proposed a second date for Friday, which she called “another red flag.”

He complimented her constantly and texted “good morning beautiful, good morning gorgeous” at the same time each morning. The first date went okay, not her favorite, she said. At the end, he hugged her and said he would text to plan Friday. She had a 30-minute drive home, and she says he never checked that she got home safely. “Have basic human decency dude,” she said.

A message arrived asking whether Friday remained the date. No answer came back. She deleted him from her contacts and social media, leaving him unblocked.

She did not open the dating app again until months after the date. When she finally did, the first profile she came across belonged to the man. He had, according to her account, deleted his old profile, created a new one, and liked hers. She matched with him and told him it was funny to see him back on the app.

She asked him whether showering women with compliments, planning a second date before the first, and then ghosting them was normal for him, and he pretended he did not know her. He denied it was his way, and then admitted he remembered her.

“I really didn’t have a good time,” he said, and made a comment about her appearance. “Honestly, you’re just not as attractive in person as you are in your pictures.”

The TikToker pointed it out in her video, “That’s his opinion that’s fine.” She says a simple text would have been enough. “Just send me a text like I’m not gonna be offended I can handle rejection,” she said.

The Incident’s Timeline

The sequence of events followed a clear order:

1. The creator matched with the man on a dating app while between jobs.
2. She gave him her phone number and agreed to add him on Snapchat to check he was not a catfish.
3. After a couple of weeks of texting, he asked her out for Thursday and then proposed a second date for Friday.
4. The first date went okay, not her favorite, and she says he never checked that she got home safely.
5. She sent a text asking if Friday was still on and received no reply.
6. She removed him from her contacts and social media without blocking him.
7. Months later, he appeared again with a new profile, liked her, and matched with her.

The Comment Section Response

Her story drew replies from viewers who shared similar experiences.

• One commenter replied that this is how dating works now and that it happens to them a lot.
• Another recounted being liked repeatedly by men who then ignored them.
• That commenter said the men make new profiles and like them again, and that she accepts the likes and responds before blocking.

The Daily Dot’s Verification

This TikTok has not been independently verified by The Daily Dot. What follows is a record of the identity presented as belonging to @www.icarly.com___’s account as shared on TikTok. Her identity, the man’, along with usernames from commenters whose identities have not been confirmed.

The tale poses questions concerning the rules of online courtship. A brief message turning down a proposal is frequently kinder than ignoring the person entirely. The creator’s advice stands: if you have met someone in person and you are not feeling it, don’ chose to ghost the other party instead.

Source material: “A Man Ghosted a Woman After Their First Date — Months Later He Matched Her Again and Said She Was Not as Attractive in Person as Her Photos,” The Daily Dot.

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