A mother-in-law told her daughter-in-law to “get over” having her wedding disrupted when the poster’s daughter went into early labor. The story, posted by u/MarketingAromatic751 on r/AmItheA–hole, has drawn 7,200 upvotes and 1,700 comments.
The conflict began in early July, when Rebecca’s wedding to the poster’s son took place. Jessie, the poster’s daughter, was not due until early August. Instead, she went into labor during the ceremony itself.
“I went to the hospital, while my husband stayed at the wedding,” the poster wrote. “Jessie’s early birth disrupted Rebecca/son’s wedding. A lot of people were waiting on news about Jessie and the baby. Especially since this is the first grandkid between the whole family.”
The poster said the two women have been arguing ever since. Rebecca wants Jessie to apologize, while Jessie does not believe she should have to because she did not intend to go into labor early.
Birthday Conflict
The tension resurfaced when the Reddit user’s husband’s birthday approached. She called Rebecca to ask about her allergies and whether the restaurant would be suitable for her.
“She asked if Jessie was coming, and I told her yes,” the poster wrote. “She then told me that neither she nor her husband (my son) would be there if Jessie was there.”
The poster questioned whether Rebecca was serious before responding with blunt words.
“I told her that this is ridiculous,” she wrote.
Rebecca responded by calling the poster a “b—-” and accusing her of favoring Jessie.
What Redditors Said
Commenters on the thread used Reddit’s AITA abbreviations to assign blame. Some sided with Rebecca, seeing her frustration over the disrupted wedding. Others argued that Jessie’s labor was outside her control.
A number of commenters settled on ESH, meaning “everyone sucks here,” suggesting that they believed multiple people involved had handled the situation poorly.
The discussion also centered on the strained relationship between Rebecca and Jessie and whether the conflict should continue years—or months—after the unexpected labor.
Family Background
The poster described a difficult history between the two women. Their personalities do not mesh well, she said.
“Rebecca finds Jessie to be stuck up and Jessie finds Rebecca to be annoying,” she wrote. “I also think Rebecca is jealous of Jessie because there is a big money gap between them.”
The poster said the two have been arguing since the incident.
Timeline of the Dispute
| Event | Date |
|---|---|
| Rebecca’s wedding | Early July |
| Jessie’s baby due | Early August |
| Jessie’s early labor | During the wedding |
| Birthday conflict | Recent |
The Core of the Dispute
This is a family dispute, and it is messy. But the poster’s response stands out for its bluntness. She told Rebecca to “get over” the wedding being disrupted by someone going into labor.
That is not getting over it. That is refusing to acknowledge that the problem is shared.
The poster’s own words capture the absurdity. She called Rebecca’s position “ridiculous.” And then Rebecca responded by calling her a “b—-” and accusing her of favoring Jessie.
The conflict has dragged on since the baby arrived. The poster said the two women have been arguing ever since.
The poster’s account is her own. We cannot independently verify the events described in the Reddit post, which are based solely on u/MarketingAromatic751’s account of the family dispute.
Source material: “Mother-in-Law Tells Daughter-in-Law to “Get Over” Wedding After Daughter’s Unexpected Labor: ‘This Is Ridiculous’,” The Daily Dot.
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