A TikTok user named @zoraidasworld has posted a video about the five signs that someone at work secretly does not like you, and it has picked up a sizable following. The video had received 29,500 likes and 920 comments as of publication.
The woman starts by noting that many people feel this at their workplace but cannot put their finger on why. Her argument rests on the idea that the colleague who dislikes you will never say it directly. Instead, they hide behind a pattern of behavior that gives away their true feelings.
The Five Signs
The first sign is inconsistent energy. One day the person is cool, the next they are off. The creator says this is not a mood swing, but an internal conflict. The person is trying to be polite, but they do not like you.
The second sign is silence after your wins. Even if you do something amazing, there will be silence from their side. But if someone else does the exact same thing, they will not hesitate to praise them. The creator advises paying attention to who claps for you and who does not.
The third sign is forced conversations. Conversations with these people start to feel unnatural. Their answers are short, with no real engagement or connection.
The fourth sign is watching you more than supporting you. “They notice everything you do,” she said. They notice when you are late and how many breaks you take. But they are not watching you to support you, she says — they are watching to critique you.
The fifth sign is a change in tone. In front of others, you get the polite version. When it is just you, you get a different energy.
The creator concludes the video by saying, “What you’re not gonna do is question yourself trying to figure out why. Sometimes it’s not even you; sometimes it’s what you represent.”
What Commenters Said
One commenter wrote, “Go to work, get paid n go home, don’t worry about who likes or dislikes you.” Another commenter wrote, “People forget it’s a job, not your friend.”
Both comments suggest the same thing: this is work, not friendship, and the feelings of coworkers should not matter.
Comparing the Signs
| Sign | Behavior |
|---|---|
| Inconsistent energy | Cool one day, off the next |
| Silence after wins | Praising others but ignoring you |
| Forced conversations | Short, unengaged answers |
| Watching you | Noticing your schedule, breaks |
| Change in tone | Polite in public, harsh alone |
A Note on the Comments
The comments suggest a common attitude toward work — that it should be transactional, not personal. People want to know what to expect, and this video offers a framework.
See the video the story is built around at The Daily Dot.
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